Saturday, January 17, 2015

Beautiful Old Broads talk about texting

Dear Ones,

Bet you didn’t know that ringtones are so OVER.  Yes, those dulcet sounds that emit from your purse in the supermarket or the familiar notes that float up from your pocket while you’re walking are outdated.  Well, I didn’t know either but it appears the younger generation don’t use cell phones to talk.  They find that quaint and old fashioned.   Talking has gone the way of  video cassettes or the phone booth (remember those).  Now the major part of their communication is done by text.  Texting is the terse telling of some event or detail in your life in a few sentences and no ringtone is activated.  Just a slight burp.

I’ve texted occasionally and reluctantly, hampered by eyesight, glare, and keys tinier than pinheads that are on my cell phone.  And when I hear that burp, I can’t just pick up my cell and say hello.  I’ve  got to hunt for my glasses and then for some odd reason my creaky cell phone develops an appetite for texts and eats part of them up, never to divulge the contents  again. There is a use for texting.  Just not my use.  I can’t see why one can’t speak into the phone.  Much superior than telegrams

Remember telegrams.  As the story was told to me,  my father telegraphed my aunts in Ireland when I was born, though for the relatives that lived stateside, he choose the telephone.  He could transmit his happiness and assure mom’s family that she was well and he could give them details and answer their questions immediately. 

Mankind has strived to improve communication since the Indians sent smoke signals.  In 1837, Samuel Morse sent this message across the telegraph wires.  “What Hath God Wrought”.  Could he have envisioned the Internet and e-mail and texting?   Indeed, he might have said this time around, “What have humans wrought?” 

I write this at the risk of being labeled a Luddite but heck, I’ve been called worst things and I was heartened to read I’m not alone in my aversion to texting.  Here’s what a champion football coach from Alabama says, “If you can’t see someone face-to-face and look them in the eye, the next best thing is to call somebody and have a conversation.  It’s a lost art today.”  According to Pew research, teens sent an average of 60 texts a day in 2011 and that number is growing like apps on an i-pad.

Whew!  We need to talk.  That’s what connects us and comforts us..  So keep those ringtones singing in your purse and call me soon.  Please.


      “The whole art of life is knowing the right time to say things.”  Maeve Binchy     

Friday, January 9, 2015

Beautiful Old Broads are patient souls

Hello Dear Ones,
On a chilly cold January afternoon in the Hill Country.  Last week we talked about doing something positive for the New Year and I made some suggestions. Also got some feedback.  One person is being more thankful while another is going to attempt to take criticism with a cheerful heart.
 I’ve pondered and decided on Being Patient for my resolution.  At least for the next few months I’ll try to be more patient and as a reminder I’ll put the words up on my mirror and my fridge…and on my dashboard.  Yes, I can go zonkers when I’m in a hurry and the person ahead of me doesn’t pull out quickly enough or so I think.  Patience. And what about the person in front of you in the express lane at the market with a zillion items in her cart.   And then she can’t find her checkbook.  Ah…Be Patient. 

After making the decision to be more patient, I came across a column about a book called “Atchison Blue” by Judith Valente in which the author spends time at a Benedictine Monastery in search of silence and detachment.  One of the rituals that the nuns perform stuck me as so moving.  Before beginning any task together, the sisters bow to each other and say “Have patience with me”.  Such a small gesture and yet what power it projects.  How humbling to ask each other for patience.  Made me realize that small gestures can and do make a difference.  Else these nuns wouldn’t be saying that phrase to each other.  They know how humbling it is to ask of someone, the gift of patience and to give it.  To take a breath and smile and graciously overlook failures or stumbles or mistakes and say “No problem”.   

Imagine if everyone exiting a crowded parking lot had patience or how about the airport security line. Perhaps we should erect signs in public imploring. ‘Have Patience With Each Other’.  After all, we’re all walking each other home.     

Please tell me what you choose to do. You can always email me your comments.  I’m off to post my reminder on the fridge.   
  
         "I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I just lived the length of it.

             I want to have lived the width of it as well.”   D. Ackerman

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Beautiful old broads start the new year 2015

Dear Ones,

My blog is one year old this week.  For all of you who follow the Friday postings, I m so thankful. I know there are so many tugs on your time these days.  I strive to keep each post brief but meaningful and always appreciate your feedback.  Earlier in the fall, I envisioned having a Beautiful Old Broads Birthday Celebration.  Life, however, dictated differently and most of the autumn I dealt with my husband’s health issues. He is healing.  At our age, health is a precious commodity to strive for and savor..  If not, we make adjustments…right.  I pointed out in a previous post that humans are in the constant state of loss.  Accepting it with grace is the challenge we all face daily.

And now we face another year and  2015 stretches out before us.   The calendar is blank, ready to be filled with appointments and schedules.  We fill it with notes and reminders knowing full well that in a blink, a whoosh, it can all change.  Still we jot down reminders prompted by the urge to feel in charge.  It gives us a sense of permanence to firmly write down in ink our schedule.  A tactile way to say we’re in control…even if we’re not.

Do you make resolutions at the beginning of the year?  The papers and TV and internet  are awash with interviews, opinions and ideas for improving ourselves.   Many times lofty resolutions  drop off the radar by the end of January.  So I aim for a less spectacular goal, a small achievement.  Here’s my plan for 2015:

Pick a word or phrase and post on your fridge  door. Last year I wrote down, “ DON’T JUDGE.”   I stuck it up and for awhile whenever I opened the fridge, I took notice.  Of course, eventually one ignores it or the note falls off.  So post another one.  Believe me, I had a struggle with judging.  Seems I judge A LOT!   Seems I can be pretty opinionated and narrow minded.

This year of 2015, what phrase or word will I write on my post-it note?  I’m pondering on that today.   So many choices.  Pick one.  
           
            LISTEN          SMILE MORE         PAY ATTENTION          FORGIVE

            DON’T CRITICIZE            DON’T INTERRUPT           GET INVOLVED

            SING…LOUD             BE PATIENT          HUG           HUG MORE

            LOVE MANY               BE SILENT                  GIVE  THANKS  

         Beginnings offer opportunities to define ourselves anew......Happy   2015